Being in love is one of the most wonderful feelings in the world. This is because you feel contented, comfortable, loved, wanted, and valued. But right after you have started going out with a guy, you may start wondering whether he truly loves you or not. Some people will pretend to love you just because of the benefits that come with it. They may just be looking for companionship, favors, sex, and others. However, they are neither deeply in love with you nor are they intending to be with you for a long time.
Although some of us have an idea of how love should be, how it looks, and how it feels, most of us have no clue about it. As a result, they do not know how to identify love when it comes their way. Maybe it is because of the false picture of love that has been painted in the movies or numerous past heartaches that has caused people to up their guard so much. Whatever the case, most people are not able to identify true love when it hits their doorstep. The good thing is that one can learn with experience.
Love is a funny thing. A guy may say that he truly loves you when they don’t. Another one may be deeply in love with you but lacks the courage to tell you. Love can hurt a lot when it goes south and that causes women to put up their guards until they are sure that what the guy has is the real thing. That is why the saying goes that, before you fall in love, have someone down there to catch you in case you come down tumbling.
Trouble knocks when you are trying to figure out whether a man loves you or not. You will not be able to participate in the relationship fully until you are sure of where things stand. Instead of focusing on the relationship, you are stuck in worries that prevent you from receiving the love that you deserve. Instead of connecting and building the relationship, you are stuck in endless thoughts of doubt and suspicion.
Men generally hide their emotions because they think that showing them is a sign of weakness. As a result, men have a challenge in expressing their emotions as they are. And even when they accept their feelings, they keep it to themselves. Women on the other hand are very open about how they feel. When they are in love, you will know it.
It is however important to note that just because he has never told you that he loves you, it does not mean that he doesn’t. Men usually speak through their actions first before talking with their mouths. If your boyfriend does these things, he is definitely in love with you.
1. Evaluate the way he looks at you
One of the tell-tale signs that he loves you even when he hasn’t told you is if he looks at you and marvels at how amazing you are. He looks at you as if he can’t believe you exist. The look he gives is not of lust and desire but is marked by an environment of happiness, inner calm, and serenity. This is a unique gaze that is reserved just for you and is not given to anyone else. However, you shouldn’t only concentrate on the way he looks at you alone but also the frequency. Whether you are together or in the same room, his eyes will always be locked towards you.
2. He just wants to give
True love is about giving and not taking. That is why parents love their children more than the children love them back. From infancy up to teenage years, children take and parents give. The love that parents give to their children is selfless and true and if you are a parent, you have probably experienced this. By taking care of the young and helpless, they naturally eliminate all the selfishness that they had in them.
When a man loves you, he wants to give everything that he has. However, I’m not referring to material possessions here. By giving, we mean that the man wants to become the best that he can be, makes you happy, enhances your life, complement you, and does anything that makes you happy. Therefore, when a man is giving you all that they have, it’s an indication that they have already fallen in love with you.
3. You rank high in his priorities
Today, everyone is very busy with the things that they do in their lives. If you are not working, you are either studying or meeting some personal commitments. When a man is in love with you, he will allocate time to spend with you in his priorities. And if he does not have time to spend with you, he will let you know when he will.
When a man is in love with you, you will become an important part of his life. Therefore, you will not be an option but a part and parcel of it.
4. He wants to become part of your life
When a man is in love with you, he may want to become part of your life in that, he is interested in knowing your friends, relatives, siblings, and colleagues. He is determined to create a good impression on them so that they can like him. The man will also want to know more about your passions and hobbies and thus, may seek to connect with your likes as much as possible.
Similarly, a man who is in love with you may want to immerse you into their lives. As a result, he may want you to meet all his people; he may bring you close to the people around him while at the same time make the people close to him love you.
In addition, you will find that a man who is in love will include you in his life plans. He does not speak about the future in generalities but envisions a bright future with you in it.
5. He notices you
A man who is in love with you will notice things about you that other people don’t. The man will notice how people interact with you, how you respond to emotions, how your mind works, how people relate with you, and how you express yourself in front of people. The man will also pay attention to all the little details and you will be surprised how well they remember them. He appreciates your character by embracing the good and the bad. Simply put, the man doesn’t just love you, he loves everything about you.
A genuine man will love you for who you are. True love has nothing to do with how the other person makes you feel. When a man loves you, he will not only see what you are about but what you can be. And if you are going in the wrong direction, they will surely let you know about it. If you are doing the wrong things, taking drinks irresponsibly, failing in your obligations, treating friends badly, a man who genuinely loves you will call you out. This is because they do not want to see you get wasted.
6. He is very concerned about your happiness
A man who truly loves you will be very concerned about your happiness. The man will do everything to ensure that you are happy and when you are not, they will honestly feel it. If you tell him that you do not like something that they do but still keep on doing it, it can be a sign that they do not love you. When a man loves you, he will avoid things that make you sad and start focusing on things that make you happy.
7. He misses you when you are away
Research has revealed that men fall in love more in a woman’s absence than in her presence. Although a man can typically shower you with love when you are with him, it is important to look at how he behaves when you are away.
Does he miss you? Call me or leave a message? Or does he keep quiet the whole time and when he comes back; say that he was very busy.
When you love someone, you miss them when they are away. However, it doesn’t mean that you have to think of them every minute as that could amount to an obsession. However, the thought of your loved one will always linger in the background. There are so many things that will remind you of them. Also, when something happens, you want to tell you of them as there is a constant connection between the two of you.
If a man is in love with you, he will remain in touch. The man will send you all the funny things that he finds, call to tell you about a funny incident that happened to him, and ask about how you are doing. If he truly loves you, you will not sit there wondering about where he disappeared to but instead, you will always feel his presence.
8. He keeps you in the know
A man who truly loves you will always keep you in the loop even when you do not see it as necessary. For instance, if you have planned on a date and he is late, he will apologize and explain why he was late. The man will do many other similar considerate things and this should tell you that he truly loves you long before he even says it. When a man loves you, he will never leave you in the dark. Instead, he will keep you informed about things that matter, not because he is compelled to but because he thinks that it is the right thing to do.
9. He is there for you in times of trouble
Love is always enjoyable especially during happy times when everything is going smoothly. However, the true test of whether he loves you or not will come when you either hit a rough patch or face a problem. How does he respond when there is a problem? Does he prefer to attend to his other commitments than be there for you?
Love is all about the other person. It’s not about one’s own needs; it’s about the other person. When in love, you give more than you take. If a man loves you, nothing will be more important to him than being there for you. Even when it is inconveniencing them, he will leave everything else and just be there for you.
10. He doesn’t give up
Another tip that will tell you that a man loves you is when he doesn’t give up on you. This man will put everything into the relationship to ensure that it works. And when disagreements happen, he will work his way to ensure that they are all sorted and that you are at peace again. Also, a man in love will not go down without a fight. This happens even when the relationship is going south. The man will do all he can to salvage it.
If a man says he loves you but is not willing to push the relationship hard, he is probably not in love with you. Also, if he quits the relationship just because he thinks that it is so hard, it’s probably because he has no true love for you. A man who loves you will not give up on a relationship unless he has put everything he has into making it work. There are instances where a man loves you, but since both of you are not right for one another, he quits the relationship. Although the man has put in all the necessary work, you have both seen that the relationship cannot work.
11. You’ll just know
When a guy loves you, you will just know. This is because love is not a secret thing and it will be obvious to you and everyone around you. If it is true that he loves you, you will have a natural peace and calm in knowing t.
A good way to know that he truly loves you is that his behavior and way of being will not arouse feelings of anxiety, fear, insecurity, and worry in you. Generally, if you have a doubt or feel uneasy about the guy, you should take caution to avoid getting hurt. When a person truly loves you, he shows it and you can tell it even before they say it.
12. He sends you a message daily
If you are the first thing on his mind every morning, then you know that he is in love. Love is a form of obsession that is healthy and rewarding. If you have infiltrated his psyche to the point that he wakes up thinking about you, then you know that he is truly in love with you.
However, you will find that not all guys will be open to tell you how they feel. Some will resist the urge to call or text you when the temptation sets in. when it comes to love, not every man can stand his ground. Once in a while, you will find that the man is weaker than you think.
13. He strives to make your life easier
When a man truly loves you, he will go out of his way to make your life easier. This is especially during dating. A man will go out of his comfort zone to ensure that you are comfortable. For example, he will go out of his way to give you a ride. The man will also ensure that you have the best, even if it costs him a fortune. That is why you go to the store, pick up whatever you want on the man’s bill but he won’t complain. He intends to make you as comfortable as possible.
14. He lights up when he sees you
Love is full of joy and happiness. When a man sees a woman that he loves, the wonderful memories that they have spent together will make him smile. As soon as he sees you, his face will lighten up with a smile. A man cannot be in love with you and fail to smile after seeing you. If he smiles from ear to ear, his eyes light up at the sight of you, gives you all his attention, he is in love with you.
15. He’s interested to know how your day was
A man in love will care a lot about how your day has been. He will even ask if you have eaten to ensure that you are staying healthy. This is a good sign that the man is truly in love with you. When a man loves you, he will want to know the finest details about what is going on in your life. In so doing, he will want to know what you are doing, what you saw in your trip, your adventures, how you performed in an exam, and so on.
The man wants to know more about your life because he wants to be part of it in some way. This is even when he wasn’t there to experience it.
16. He values your opinion
When a man is in love with you, he will want to hear your opinion before making important decisions in his life. This is because the man is considering sharing his future with you and thus, wants to know how you fare in his plans. Also, the man values the way you see the world and thus, wants to see how much his plans align with yours. A man who is in love with you may seek your input in his life because he is subconsciously trying to merge it with yours.
17. He gives you the better things
If you want to know whether a man truly loves you, you should check if he gives you the better things. For example, if he knows that you like to sleep on the left side of the bed, he will let you sleep there even if it’s his favorite. Similarly, you will find that the man will give you a better pillow. If you are sharing a sandwich, he will give you the bigger half. He is doing all this because he believes that you are his better half.
All of the above may seem like a simple act of sharing but that is far from the truth. That is simply giving. To him, giving you the best is the same as if he was the one taking. And it feels better for him especially since it makes him happy.
18. He does everything to protect you
When a man loves you, he does everything to protect you. You will find that when you are walking, he is taking the outside of the sidewalk. This is to ensure that if a car loses control, he will get hit first and not you. And if a car hits a paddle, he will get splashed on and not you. A man who loves you will also feed you, check up on you, and takes care of you when you are under the weather.
A man who loves you will care more about you than he does for himself. And even if he is not a fighter, the man will do the impossible just to protect you.
We hope that the above article will help you in knowing when a man is in love with you. However, there will reach a point in your relationship where you will decide whether you will continue with the man end the relationship. Whatever the case, the tips above will at least give you a clue on where the entire relationship is headed.